Self-Love School Registration - Can I sign up, please?

I am amazing 

I am enough 

I am powerful 

I am a big fan of self-love, self-acceptance and self-belief. The above 3 affirmations are part of my daily self-love ritual and a gentle reminder to myself that I am more than my thoughts. And that choice always exists. 

The act of self-love may on the surface seem simple. But to accept one’s “imperfections” and really lay down the self-love laws can be a turbulent journey. The people we attract, meet and invite in along the way are also part of our learning they are are teachers and highlight areas of our personality traits and values system which may no longer be working for us in a positive manner. 

My friend Linda had a friendship which was not going as well as she had hoped. She realised it was vital for her to know and understand what part she was playing. Once she realised she was harbouring guilt from the last. She then accepted her part within the framework and changed her belief and healed her friendship. She also accepted that if her friend didn't agree she was happy to respect her and allow her friend the space she needed. 

Self-Love School Registration - Can I sign up, please? 

If there was such a school would you want to sign up? Attend classes on how to be kinder to others and yourself?  It would be great, wouldn’t it! But self-love really is a fun part of our learning as a human. It helps us to make better choices and allows us to develop our emotional intelligence. For some, it can be a life long devotion.

Without my mistakes, I wouldn't be where I am now. 

It’s good to look back over your own timeline and ask yourself who influenced you to make certain decisions around self-judgement? Who guided and encouraged you as a child to compare yourself to others? And how many times have you beaten yourself up for not being good enough! 

A love-hate relationship is the best way to describe how I felt about my body for years. I remember as young as 11 years old, comparing my body with my best friend. She was thin and long-limbed. I was plump and short-limbed! 

As I recall no one taught me to be this hard on myself and compare my own as I thought then “inadequate body parts” to my best friends. I also remember looking into the mirror and mentally analysing parts of my body. Wishing that they looked better, thinner, tighter, stronger, sexier....the list goes on. 

I was a teenager. Impressionable, vulnerable and already in a negative relationship with my body. 

This lead to 10 years of body dysmorphia and bulimia. Then I found love for my self. I recall one day driving in my car and feeling so depleted with how I was malnourished. I said out loud ”enough is enough.” I couldn’t face the voice in my head telling me not to eat anymore. I was hungry so hungry and yearned for something so much more than comparing myself to others and judging my own body and feeling bad if I hadn’t done my full-body workout! 

Give yourself a break.                Observation is a strength and discipline which reminds you to be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to grow. Figure out what’s missing and start to fill life with these missing parts. 

What was missing for me was a sense of togetherness. I was yearning for connection. And I began to work on integrating this ultimate flow of connectivity into my life. I found positive influencers to teach me a new way. 

“If all girls were taught how to love each other fiercely instead of how to compete with each other and hate their own bodies, what a different world we would live in.” Nikita Gill 

Nikita’s words resonate strongly with me. Do they with you? Perhaps you are a Mum and concerned about your own daughter or son and want to encourage more self-love. Or you are in a mindset still of starving yourself to fit into that dress for that party. Or still like I was disgusted by the sight of a certain body part. 

I ask you to stop now and think of all the women out there feeling the same. Call out to them. Tell them you understand. Tell then how beautiful they are. Send this out to them and then open yourself up to receive it back. This is one way to begin to invite in self-love. 

First trimester- Supporting one another 

I am a big fan and advocate for kindness towards women. Sisterhood and support. This is paramount to my recovery story. I support other women to support themselves. I have build a business upon this foundation. 

I offer women the chance to express themselves in words through my wellness blog allowing them to recognise their talents and most importantly take credit for them. I also share their creative excellence by representing their brand giving them advise so they can grow and support their business and family. So together we can build a path of diversity and integrity.  

Second trimester - Gossip or Goddess 

So how is the journey towards self-love important to how we treat ourselves and others?  I believe it is within our rights to have an opinion but I feel this opinion is only worth shouting to the world if it comes from a place of true identity. 

What I mean by true identity is if you have an opinion/belief: 

1. can you say it to the persons face so that it will heal them and not hurt them.

2. Can you question your own integrity - so you can defuse the toxicity within your opinion and values and understand that people have their own “stuff” they need to deal with.

3. Be brave enough to know when it is time to let go of a relationship and open up to new friends, new relationships and new ways of thinking.

Third Trimester- Forgive.Forget.Move On 

Farrell Barrell was the nickname I was kindly called at primary school I was 9 years old. By 11 years old I was told by the headmistress if I continued to eat peanut butter sandwiches I’d get fat. I was put on my first diet at 11 years old. 

I was bulimic by 19. I began to love myself at 27. And eventually I recovered at 29. 

That was 20 years of my life where I allowed a “non true” perception of how I looked to rule the decisions I made. I blame no one. I forgive everyone. I also congratulate myself for the devotion to healing myself. 

Fully Fledge Self-Love Graduate 

In the mastery of self-healing, I remind my friends, family and clients that the person or situation aggravating them may not be ready to face or hear the problem. Also that they need time to understand and to develop. And even more time and a helping hand to learn and trust self-love. 

To think of yourself is not selfish. It is your right to do what’s best for you. It relieves stress from your body. And also helps you to build a life around you, which is for longevity, one that can be passed to generations as a firm foundation for our humanitarian evolutionary progression.

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Natalie is a writer, podcaster and intuitive coach. The founder of Cosmic Soul School and Yoga Wear Brand Yummy Yoga Girl and has 15 years’ experience as a Soulpreneur. With a passion for small independent businesses Natalie is drawn to females who have incredible concepts and need a boost in confidence to make life changing decisions. Or women who are already confident but seeking new ways to take their business to the next level. Through the Cosmic Soul Academy Natalie offers resources to elevate and guide women to their soul defining moment using a whole body approach. 

As a certified Wellbeing Coach, Master Neuro Linguistic Psychology Practitioner, Master Hypnotherapist and Yoga Mentor Natalie interweaves all her skills together to create the ultimate work-balance-play life. Adding creative value and implementing healthy growth plans is at the heart of Natalie’s philosophy which in turn leads to high levels of success as the change has been planted from the root and permeates through their entire lifestyle.

Natalie hosts her own Podcast Light The Way and is a radio host radio on Wellbeing Radio celebrating sisterhood she invites women who are creative leaders within their lives to speak their truth and offer guidance about how to step into the unknown and open up to their full potential.