7 stages of your soul revolution
Welcome to a series of blogs inspired by my book Light The Way. A chunked-down version of the 7 wake-up calls that lead you through your soul revolution. In this blog, I’ll be sharing wake up call one…
The first wake-up call - A Symbiotic Exchange
Our awakening into this thing called life here on planet earth is rather rude. We are cocooned in a lush, warm ever providing space. The mother is yet to know her child yet she grows inside of her and this unconscious living entity feeds from her.
This exchange is a miracle. And however much we understand about it the miracle of creation still moves us. This movement we feel has a deep energetic connection to our initial years of relationship with our parents and time here on the earth.
We are helpless. We need our parents and primary caregivers to look after us nurture us and nourish us. We in effect are beholden to them we unconditionally trust that what is receiving is the way. We trust them to educate us mentally, physically, and on the lessons of life.
We are reliant on our parents. Some say that we choose our parents whilst we are in our spiritual state. I am not sure if this is true but after forty years of living, I do believe that there is a celestial contract between parents and child.
I like to call this the devoted lifeline. It is along this lifeline that both parent and child get to exchange a flow of educating and challenging one another. Growth and learnings occur on a reciprocal level. And on a spiritual level beyond aggravate, hurt, shame, guilt, and anger witnessed and felt within specific roles and circumstances between each party within the family unit, there is a chance to evolve, grow and develop beyond the pact of parent and child relations.
How we choose to deal with this relationship exchange is our choice. As we move from a baby to toddler to adolescence to adulthood, we are very much under the tutelage and guidance of our parents. All of us have a story to tell and have been impacted in a variety of ways by our parents and upbringing.
There are also the outer influences we must acknowledge that are considered drivers for our learning and conditioning these include, grandparents, teachers, and influencers such as babysitters, friends, younger siblings, and other family members. If you are lucky enough to have a sibling or more than one you will also have experienced that you are very different from this person who was also born to the same mother and father.
There are many books that explain the psychological reasoning behind this. I am not here to explain the depths of the reasons but I think it is really interesting to acknowledge how different the experience is from sibling to sibling even though the same womb carried the child.
External influences can be part of the reason why the siblings are different. However, I am intrigued by the theory that we make an esoteric agreement when we enter the Earth as to whether we choose the role of the pacifier or the provoker.
My observation within my own family unit confirms this. I have one sister her name is Charlotte Beth Farrell. And as the eldest, I am the pacifier within our family dynamic and my sister is the provoker.
This distinct difference between siblings challenges and surprises the parents on multi-faceted levels. They begin to realise that parenting was not quite how they had imagined! And that each of their children is here to teach them something new.
The Disintegration of Pedestal Status
It is this exchange of teaching and learning between parent and child which I find so fascinating. In the initial years of our lives, most children dote on their parents. Then as life moves on external influences have a massive impact on the way we view our parents. And the pedestal status begins to disintegrate.
We realise that our parents are human and make mistakes. That they are doing their best and have always been. The disintegration may occur abruptly or passively whichever way it occurs I feel it is a healthy stage in the development of the parent and child pact.
I remember when my parents got divorced. I was 14. I recall Mum telling my sister and me that she would be divorcing our Dad. He was working away in Germany and hadn’t been in our family energy field for a while. On reflection perhaps the space apart had given my mum the courage she needed and strength to make this life-changing decision. As she told me of their permanent separation my reaction was one of relief and joy.
It was very obvious to me as the pacifier that my parents were not soul mates and that being apart from one another was healthier for everyone. Instead of me feeling upset it must have been strange for my Mum as her eldest daughter offered her comfort. A few months later I too left the family home to boarding with a host family as I had gained a place at a performing arts school in London.
Consequently, the months of having a new experience living away from home gave me chance to look at the family dynamic from a fly-on-the-wall perspective. I could go meta and be disassociated from the feelings associated with the parting of our family unit. My new perspective made me realise that the “perfect family” perception was a myth. I recognised much pain must have been experienced by my Mum, in her role as a wife of an alcoholic, as she chose to hide from this fact to keep us all safe together and look like a functioning family.
The pedestal had been removed.
No one’s fault.
No judgment.
An awakening - ready to take place?
Wake Up Call 2 will appear soon in this blog I will be sharing information on Demystifying Hierarchal Projection
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